What you can start doing today to change a negative emotion to positive action.
“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.” Wayne Dyer
I am honored and truly blessed to have met a kindred spirit today that inspired this GoodNews blog. Thank you, my friend!
Now that Late Summer is well over, school has been going on a few weeks now and Autumn has truly settled in with Winter in some parts of the world already, don’t you feel energy drawing inwards?
It’s a natural process as Nature prepares for Winter’s creative, restorative and introspective phase of the year and so it is with us on many levels. It’s also associated with grief and anxiety which can cause insomnia, stress, leading to more anxiety and round and round we go! Time to let that shit go!
Do you remember what it was like when you were in school, college or when you were 18? The world has gotten so much more complicated since then, hasn’t it? We didn’t experience the impact of social media, increased academic & social pressure to achieve more, be more, do more, to be 24/7 always ‘on’ and sadly in the same breath, see increased suicide rates with our children and college students today.
How do you tell those who suffer from anxiety from the pressure of high achievement, family, peers and culture (self-imposed or not) causing sleepless nights that their sleep can actually be the key to their success?
Consider there are many more factors involved around this topic, here are 3 actions that you can start with to change anxiety to a positive action today.
“Stress, anxiety and negative emotions are forms of fear that have a message for us if we listen.” Mag Secretario
Ask yourself to:
- Identify/name the feeling that you might be experiencing. What is it? Is it stress, anxiety or___ that has kept you from___? What’s on your mind when waking or just before bed? What does that feel like?
What we know today is that by putting our feelings into words takes a little ‘power’ away from that emotion. On a neuroscience level, it decreases activity in the emotional center of our brain, the amygdala (more on that later) and increases activity in the prefrontal cortex, the logical brain affecting behavior and the processing of emotions.
By doing this with all of our emotions, we can be less reactive and more proactive in our response. In this way of thinking, all emotions are neither good or bad, rather they warn us, protect us and ultimately increase our Emotional Intelligence, one the key Life Skills missing in our educational systems today. Don’t get me started!!
“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” Thich Nhat Hanh
2. Identify the cause of the feeling starts with a reality check. Is your anxiety over grades, a future job, pressure from your family (real or perceived?) or could it be a result of poor time management, falling asleep in lectures or having a ‘party’ social life? Could the cause be not being able to say no?
Some have said that you have to choose two between good grades, social life or enough sleep because it’s not possible to have all three in college. WTF (What’s The Fact)! The fact is that science is proving this every day that a lack of sleep impacts not only your physical health and response times (like drunk driving) but also your perception of reality, your ability for your brain to function at a higher level (increased memory, learning and decision making).
I believe that it’s more important to manage our energy than our time (much more on that in the near future!) because time is finite and energy is infinite. Time is the same for everyone and yes managing time can help but to me, it’s about what you bring to the table. What energy do you bring? What good is managing time if your completed exhausted?
“When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.” Paulo Coelho
- Identify a satisfying response to the questions above about your reality check. Is your perception of your reality accurate? Do you really have too much on your plate?
If No? take a deep breath and feel less anxious, less stressed. That was easy, right?
If Yes? create a plan to reduce anxiety & stress by managing your Sleep, Health & Energy. (download my Power of SHE) By doing this, you can actually have the good grades, the social life you want (let’s not get carried away!) by creating your own sleep rituals, the key starting point to having all three.
“There is a time for many words, and there is also a time for sleep.” Homer
Time to talk? I’m here in service!