How do you define being healthy and happy?

I’m concerned for my father with his health challenges not sleeping well the past 21/2 years because of a skin issue, anxiety and bad dreams so when I asked my father if he was healthy, he adamantly replied ‘as long as he’s moving and not bedridden, he’s healthy’. But you don’t know my dad!



Many people may not realize that health includes our mental health, our emotional and psychological wellbeing. My father is ‘healthy’ for 85 years of age but is frequently depressed, moody, drinks every day (more on ‘bad’ days) and this impacts everyone in the household. What good is being ‘healthy’ if you’re unhappy, depressed and have a negative outlook on life? How can I help him be happier and healthier?

As a coach, I continue to learn how to help others by allowing them to live their own life, to be a good listener, to let go of my own ego and most of all, to be more compassionate especially with my parents. A dear friend shared a technique that works well and that is to think of your parents or anyone that challenges you as a little child or a baby. Your heart can melt immediately!

“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves”.

Henry David Thoreau

This week is Mental Health Awareness Week in the US, a very important issue made more visible with recent suicides this year. That was just the ‘celebrity’ suicides and the rate has risen 30% in 17 years! The CDC now ranks suicide #10 on the cause of deaths in the US! This has inspired me to create my first ‘playshop’ called The Science and Practice of Happiness where I shared a bit about happiness earlier

We learn as health coaches to ‘put your oxygen mask on first’. Take a good look at your own health and wellbeing. Reach out to others. Asking for help is really a sign of courage. I’m here in service for you!

“Change the way we all talk to each other about our mental health.”

Kate Middleton

5 Warning Signs of Mental Health Risk

  1. A Change in Personality. If someone is acting like a very different person, or not acting or feeling like themselves, this is a warning sign.
  2. Uncharacteristic Anxiety, Anger, or Moodiness. Severe changes in emotion are a cause for alarm, especially if they are persistent.
  3. Social Withdrawal and Isolation. If an individual is “closing off” socially, canceling social engagements, or spending too much time alone, this is a serious warning sign of emotional or mental health issues.
  4. Lack of Self-Care or Risky Behaviors. Persons with mental health issues often lose concern over their own health and well-being, engaging in risky behaviors like drinking and drug use.
  5. A Sense of Hopelessness or Feeling Overwhelmed. Mental health difficulties often cause people to give up – to feel like life is just too hard, or that they will never feel “normal” again.