It’s easy to dismiss dreams or even not remember having them! Here are 3 questions and reframes coaches might consider.
To many, dreams are simply byproducts of sleep. They are random occurrences devoid of any consequence or meaning. When we do remember our dreams, they are often erratic and confusing.
Yet, dreaming is incredibly important, especially during this season of Winter. As Nature demonstrates to us, it’s time to draw our energy inwards, to reflect, to be creative, sleep more and dream. What dreams do you have for the next decade, 2020?
“You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live as one.” John Lennon
Dreams enhance the overall experience of sleep. They enable our brains to decompress. Studies show that dreaming helps people process emotionally challenging situations. Dreaming also improves our ability to solve problems and helps crystallize memories.
In summary, dreaming helps us recover, grow, and learn. Even if we don’t attribute meaning to our dreams or consider them to be signs of what is to come, they are biologically relevant to our health and well-being.
Most of the time, we dream during the deepest stage of sleep. However, we often make the mistake of discounting deep sleep because it exists on the opposite end of the spectrum from our productive, awake selves. And in today’s culture, when we’re not productive, we’re not valuable.
This is not right.
“Dismissing the value of dreams shuts the door on our most accessible, direct experience of sleep.” Rubin Naiman
As a Personal Energy & Potential coach who believes sleep is essential to complete life transformation, I am passionate about changing the narrative around deep sleep and dreaming.
I want my clients to be excited about the wonders and healing power of sleep. I want them to embrace their dreams and sink into deep sleep willingly. When we consciously submit to our sleeping selves, we give our minds permission to rest and recuperate, guilt-free. We begin to see the one-third of our lives that we spend sleeping as valuable time worthy of protection.
Those who go to sleep already anticipating waking up the next day deprive themselves of the full benefits of a wonderfully restorative and life-giving journey. Below are three questions to help you reframe your perspective on deep sleep and dreaming and a quote from Leonardo Da Vinci who is celebrated across the world during his 500th year anniversary.
“Why does the eye see a thing more clearly in dreams than the imagination when awake?” Leonardo da Vinci
Three life-changing questions and reframes
- Do you consider sleep to be wasted time?
Many of us live busy and distracted lives, so much so that we consider sleep to be a waste of time. If you go to bed frustrated every night because you can never get enough done, you teach your brain to label sleep as an obstacle to what you want to accomplish.
The opposite is true!
Dreaming can empower you to tackle problems with emotional and intellectual resilience. Your brain needs ample time in deep sleep every night of the week. And you can’t “catch up” on weekends. Deep sleep is not something you trade on a nightly basis for a few more hours of exhausted living.
Search your feelings and evaluate how you view sleep.
As the late Dr Sean Stephenson once asked, (and adapted by me) Is sleep a gift or a burden?
2. Do you “submit” to sleep?
Even if you are someone who sleeps 7 or 8 hours per night, it’s important to consider your posture towards the activity of sleep. So many people fail to appreciate the benefits of sleep and are unable to fully embrace its role in their lives.
If you go to bed only because you are done with your day, you’re unlikely to maximize the potential of how restful and nourishing sleep can be. Loosen your grip on your mind and give yourself fully to sleep. Create the space for your mind to wander beautifully through the halls of dreams so that you can wake up fresh and energized! As my fav sleep psychologist and dream specialist, Dr Rubin Naiman says, ‘don’t try to go to bed, instead ‘let go of the day’
3. Do you have a negative disposition towards dreams?
Dreaming can be a sensitive topic. Many people have traumatic experiences with nightmares that shape how they view sleep entirely. I know people who avoid sleep because they are fearful of what their dreams may bring. It is not easy to reverse negative sleep habits and behaviors that have formed over many years.
The first step towards addressing a negative opinion of dreaming is to acknowledge that it exists. Put a name to your sleep-related anxieties and identify the power it has had over you in your life.
By doing so, you bring your struggles with sleep to the front of your conscious mind and allow yourself to address the underlying issues. Only after you do this can you form new, positive associations around sleep and dreams.
“All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” Walt Disney
As always, it is better to walk through personal transformations like this with others.
If you’re ready to share your Dreams, let’s connect.